Most of us do too much, or have more possessions than we need or use. Or both. With our lives swept up in an overwhelming swirl of attachments, worry, and endless, mechanical "doing," our minds become fuzzy on what stays and what goes, what matters and what doesn't. As humans it is in our nature to experience clarity and spaciousness all the time. The problem is we lose focus, get off balance, and forget how.
So how do we dial it back - or …
It's all well and good to clear your home and life, but if you're in a constant state of overwhelm, no amount of hope, trash bags, or nifty containers, is going to make a sustainable dent on the build-up of stuff and stress. I know, bummer, right?
Same goes with urgency.
If you're feeling desperate to make a change, the real work of clearing must first focus on the overwhelm and desperation – not the piles. When you address the resisting …
"Your Spacious Self will teach you how to clear your house and quiet your mind!"–Marci Shimoff, New York Times Bestselling author of Happy for No Reason.
Nourishing lessons in slowing down, simplifying, and self-care, Stephanie's bestselling book is the FOUNDATION for a whole new way to address the visible and the invisible side of clutter. It shows you how to clear your home, quiet the mind, and restore your spirit (in ways that feel good and …
The JOURNEY! Stephanie's newest book from Hierophant Publishing is the time-tested, field-tested, slow drip approach to clearing your home and heart that lightens, enlightens, and lasts! Each one of its 365 lessons builds one upon another to create new habits that lead to lasting change.
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There is no clearing book like this one. With short contemplations, stories, tools, tips, and best one-minute practices, Vogt …
"I just found your site after doing the KonMari method. Loved her method because it got rid of the stuff I did not need. However, I am looking back at the categories and find that I need to go through it again... Now is the time for your method... post KonMari. I can be gentler with my possessions and really ‘look’ at them. Your method is the clean-up I needed. A slower, gentler, more mindful method."–DJ.
As the saying goes, a rising tide lifts …
"Thank you so much. I just watched the first of the four videos over and over and over and over:)... I repeated and actually got so much inspiration that I cleared a whole shelfing unit and it feels so silent and orderly it makes me feel at peace... Thank you for bringing some spaciousness to my home. So grateful! –C.C.
I love your small step approach! Reducing and repeating at a slow pace. You are so good at explaining how beginning the …
"Tell me, is there any reason not to feel like you're in heaven when you crawl into bed every night?" –A Year to Clear
Whether or not you're sleeping like a baby these days, I invite you to keep reading. In today's post I've excerpted a terrific interview between Oprah and Arianna Huffington, the queen of sleep. It offers a lot more about the subject than just logging in a few Zzz's every night.
(And PS... If you have a copy of the book A Year to Clear, you have my permission to jump ahead to Week 40 and get a head start on "Getting Good …
The video (below) by Erin Janus has been making the rounds. It's good. It lays it on thick. Even just watching half of it gets the point across: The world is out of balance. We are addicted to excess. We've lost our way.
But I'd like to make a suggestion if, or when you watch it: Take the message to heart and notice what your mind does.
Racking yourself with guilt over how much stuff you have; judging the unconscious behaviors of your human brothers and sisters; and/or feeling shame for the abundance of riches you enjoy... is. not. the. …
That's not me in the photo, but it could be, doing one of my favorite things.
Yes, I love making the bed in the morning. It's part of my daily ritual – after a quick meditation and yoga practice.
I love smoothing the bunched-up sheets at the foot of the bed; shaking and restoring the comforter; fluffing up the pillows, placing them back, and tucking the bedspread over them; and finally, like a maestro putting the last flourishing touch on her art, laying the silk accent pillow in the middle. I step back and take it in.
It is five …
"I began to investigate what being kind to myself and having more self care might look like. I did simple things like moving my phone out of my bedroom, deleting Facebook from the phone and buying an alarm clock that has no sound but uses light to mimic the sunrise. Will and I have found some amazing new hikes. My food is healthier, I even take a couple vitamins now. My journal has more words in it. My house is cleaner."–Posts from the Path
Self-Care. It is as essential to clearing as breathing is to staying alive.
But what does …
"People work through emotions by being able to identify them and use them as signals. A lot of the time, we’re left in the dark. Enter the Dictionary of Obscure Sorrows, the brainchild of writer John Koenig, who is here to give you words for the feelings you may not have even known you were having."–Brianna Wiest
Thoughts and feelings – those sometimes messy, mysterious bundles of emotional matter that swirl in our head space and heart space, keeping us spinning in circles or up at night...
Yes, we all have them.
Recently I stumbled …
Ladies, what would you say to your younger self?
If you had a chance to live your life over again, or go back just a few years even, what would you do? What would you do differently?
Here's the thing: It's not too late to choose differently. Everything that preceded this moment has informed and grown you.
What is one small step you can take today that supports a higher yearning – that honors your true self?
This beautiful video message might help you remember. …
"Life is a garden
not a road
we enter and exit
through the same gate
where we go matters less
than what we notice"
–Bokonon (The Lost Book)*
(*Words of Kurt Vonnegut placed in the writings of an imagined mystic from the novel Cats Cradle)
So, what are you noticing right now?
The brilliant poem below written by an eleventh grader from Brooklyn, NY is as powerful visual as I've ever seen on how our thoughts and words can change everything.
Here's the trick: Read from top down first, and then again from bottom up, and notice how reading it each way makes you feel.
Worst Day Ever
by Chanie Gorkin
Today was the absolute worst day ever
And don't try to convince me that
There's something good in every day
Because, when you take a closer look,
This world is a pretty evil place.
Some goodness does …
"Let the past drift away in the water." –Japanese saying
Water features can put us in a delicious trance – like the fifteen-second video below that I made in a chapel atrium in Cambridge, Massachusetts. It took my breath away when we stumbled on it one late fall afternoon.
Add the unexpected glow of a brilliant November sunset and uninterrupted stillness, and you get pure heaven.
What happens when you watch the video and then close your eyes for a minute and let it cycle through a few more times?
Is there a place you like to go that …
This flower caught my eye at sunset the other day. The afternoon light was incredible, and there it was, doing its glorious thing of simply be-ing.
I ran for my iPhone, zoomed in, and clicked.
Later, after I'd uploaded the image, I saw that it wasn't just a single flower any more. Hiding in plain sight I could see the crinkled vine shaped like an ampersand, the dark leaves mixed in with the light ones, sibling buds at different stages of growth. All of it together, with the flower petals against the backdrop of the late afternoon sky, took my …