It makes my heart sing to receive letters from readers sharing how they have applied some of the principles from Your Spacious Self to turn their home and life around; and discover, to their amazement, how clearing can be as simple as flipping a switch inside oneself. Being compared to Eckhart Tolle doesn’t hurt either.
Here’s one of those letters. Thank you, Andrea!
I read your book Stephanie, and it was wonderful! I read a bit of it at Barnes and Noble, but didn’t buy it right away. It stood out to me because of the word ‘Spacious’ in the title. I had just finished reading ‘A New Earth’ by Eckhart Tolle, and I was perusing the Self Help section for further reading. I was very ‘unconscious’ as you say of clutter (in the weathery/emotional sense), so I didn’t even think to look for a book that addressed that. I read a chapter or two in the bookstore, and I noticed you weave a lot of the same terms and concepts as Eckhart Tolle, which I was only recently primed to understand (thanks to Eckhart), and I was completely delighted by that. I left the book at the bookstore that night, but I kept thinking about what you said about the weather.
One evening at home I tossed a pile of mail on the desk because the drawers were so full of unsorted paperwork, and I decided, “I’ll just sort these papers on the desk.” When I was finished with that, in all of a few minutes, I seamlessly moved on to the rest of the drawers. I finished them in that first ‘clearing session’. To have the desk organized felt amazing. It wasn’t as hard as I imagined it would be, in the micro-moments when I allowed myself to pay attention.
So I went back to the bookstore and bought your book. I am the kind of girl who devours a book within hours when I’m as excited as I was to read your book, but it took me weeks to finish. I had already learned about presence and stillness from Eckhart Tolle, and after every few pages of your book, I found myself needing to pause and Be, because the concepts were so grand to me that I really needed to sit with them.
I decided I was going to start clearing a little each day. So I did the dishes and laundry each day, because they were something I knew how to do easily, and I didn’t have to ‘feel’ the weather while I sorted through my teenage sons old preschool love letters, etc. I was never habitually on-top-of the dishes and laundry. But since I was happy to have something ‘easy’ to do each day, that has become a habit that I don’t dread at all. And once a day I did something ‘hard’, like decide whether to keep or save the piles of sentimental stuff.
It’s only been a month, but nearly every square inch of my home is tended to. I cook nearly every night. I love it, but I used to dread the dishes. Now I tend to them with passion because it feels like a ritual of self-care. I can tell my mind is just as spacious as my home is now, because I feel the high vibration that is gratitude more deeply than I ever have. And gratitude this big, or deep, inseparably feels me with every other good states of Being – like peaceful, or joyful.
I have a job interview tomorrow, but I’m up late with nervous excitement, which is how I found this interview. The interview is for my dream job, and though I’m not attached to the outcome (thank you Stephanie), I know I’m in this happy position because of all of the work I was able to do, in my home, and in my head, with your loving guidance.
Thank you so much!