Because these grass-stained relics remind me of the joyful day that I walked across a grassy knoll on the coast of Maine to marry my sweetheart and best friend. (Never mind that they take up space and no longer fit or feel good on my feet.)
The bigger question to ask of course is this: Is it possible to remember that magical day without carting a box of shoes (I never open and will never wear) from house to house, closet to closet? Is it possible to pull the box out and use it to practice letting go with compassionate awareness?
The short answer is yes. And here’s why:
“Some of us fear that letting go of the sweet reminders of our past will erase and nullify the good memories forever. It’s things like the tattered quilt that reminds you of summers on Lake Champlain; the kids’ art projects; the blurry and faded snapshots of people and places you don’t even recognize. Perhaps knowing that good memories – as energy – can never be lost or erased (and “bad” memories can be a constant drain) might make it easier to keep what makes your heart sing and release what does not.”–Chapter 5, “Mental Clutter,” Your Spacious Self
And the longer part to the answer that most clearing approaches do not address is that sometimes it takes as long as it takes to let some things go.
No amount of coaxing or analyzing is going to move something any faster out that door if the mind is spinning a memory from the past, feels duty-bound to save “just in case”, or is in caught in fight or flight survival mode.
The only way to unhinge a mind that is in lock-down is to adopt a gentle approach that involves clearing things that are doable and won’t activate the fight or flight response.
After nearly three decades, I finally let the wedding shoes go. I took the photo of them and added the box to the mountain of stuff we took to the Goodwill that day. No biggie.
Way easier than I expected…
… even if the grass stains I see in the photo do still elicit a smallish pang.
Is there something you’re still hanging onto for sentimental reasons that you might be ready to release? Let us know here in the comment box or our page on Facebook. How does it feel to let go – with compassionate self-care?
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